Mourning the Loss
Processing grief is vital to progress.
Nathaniel is a social worker, mentor for parents of LGBTQ+ youth, and facilitator/empathy mentor. He started out in NYC as a singer/dancer/actor from the heartland (O-H-I-O) getting his BFA in Musical Theater from Pace University. After years of performance, Nathaniel turned to working with youth, as an educator and administrator at Fusion Academy. Since then he has completed his Master’s in Social Work at Fordham University and started The Proud Path, as well as worked with the Ali Forney Center and the Hetrick-Martin Institute, agencies addressing LGBTQ+ youth homelessness. His mission is to learn everything he can about the coming out process to assist others through it, and develop empathy within those who never have to.
The truth is, coming out affects more than just the LGBTQ+ young person. In the moment of coming out, the parents lose a child that they always thought they had. Even if the parents are supportive, there is still a loss that needs to be acknowledged in order to process. This module strikes at the heart of that loss to honor the grief parents feel so they can accept the change and move beyond it.
Parents of LGBTQ+ kids often aren't even aware of their feelings about the change. In order to remain supportive, parents bury deep their feelings of frustration, disappointment or even anger. While protecting the child is important, parents must also acknowledge that, whether they meant to or not, they have expectations of who their child was “going to be” or “supposed to be.” Parents in this course often find closure around the shame they feel being upset about their child's LGBTQ+ status.
Your child is and will always be your child. However, this course will help you support them by processing your grief. Children of parents who have not processed these feelings often feel like a burden or an accident. Your child will know that you support them because you will be able to process your feelings separately and be fully available to love and support them.
"Nathaniel's effervescent compassion and heart is clear in everything he does. When applied to his Life Work, helping advance LGBT awareness, rights, and community, it is nothing short of miraculous and moving. I have learned and grown personally and professionally through knowing Nathaniel."
Co-Founder, Art Cube
Frequently Asked Questions
"Nathaniel strikes the perfect balance between empathy and expertise, with his guidance demonstrating both genuine kindness and a fundamental knowledge about issues faced by the LGBTQ+ community. Having seen Nathaniel work with students, many of whom are questioning their gender identities, going through the coming out process, or exploring their sexualities, I’ve seen firsthand his ability to make a difference and have an inspiring effect on those around him."
Private School Administrator, Fusion Academy
What we spend our time doing is what we truly honor as important.
Whatever it is that we prioritize to fill our time is something we want to do. Actions speak so much louder than words. Choosing to spend time, just 30 minutes or so, to better understand why this matters speaks volumes about the kind of family member, parent, friend, or teacher you are. There's no strings attached, just a half hour of some of the exercises I've developed in my time as a lecturer and thought leader on LGBTQ youth in the home and in the school system.
I hope you'll prove that this is very important to yourself and to others by choosing to spend some time on it today.
Thank you already for taking the time to even be here!