What Is Coming Out?
What is "coming out?" It is a lot more than just telling your parents. And it can be so frustrating, even dangerous.
What is coming out? In this module you will learn more about what coming out is like as a teen. Also, you’ll find out what it feels like to keep something bottled up and why some people choose that rather than live out loud. Most importantly, we’ll learn strategies to help support a child as they are coming out in larger spaces like school, social circles, and within family.
Parents must take this course to understand what coming out feels like. Parents will get a glimpse of the psychological effects of holding onto a terrifying secret, as well as why queer youth come out at all. Parents must understand this core experience because LGBTQ+ people don't just come out once, they come out every day.
Your child's life trajectory will be affected by their coming out. Not only coming out to you as their parents, but also all of the other people in their lives they have to tell: past, present and future. As their parent, you need to set a positive example, and show them that you are trying to understand what their experience will be like. As parents are often some of the first to know, you have the opportunity to make it great.
Nathaniel is a social worker, mentor for parents of LGBTQ+ youth, and facilitator/empathy mentor. He started out in NYC as a singer/dancer/actor from the heartland (O-H-I-O) getting his BFA in Musical Theater from Pace University. After years of performance, Nathaniel turned to working with youth, as an educator and administrator at Fusion Academy. Since then he has completed his Master’s in Social Work at Fordham University and started The Proud Path, as well as worked with the Ali Forney Center and the Hetrick-Martin Institute, agencies addressing LGBTQ+ youth homelessness. His mission is to learn everything he can about the coming out process to assist others through it, and develop empathy within those who never have to.
"Nathaniel strikes the perfect balance between empathy and expertise, with his guidance demonstrating both genuine kindness and a fundamental knowledge about issues faced by the LGBTQ+ community. Having seen Nathaniel work with students, many of whom are questioning their gender identities, going through the coming out process, or exploring their sexualities, I’ve seen firsthand his ability to make a difference and have an inspiring effect on those around him."
Private School Administrator, Fusion Academy
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"Nathaniel's effervescent compassion and heart is clear in everything he does. When applied to his Life Work, helping advance LGBT awareness, rights, and community, it is nothing short of miraculous and moving. I have learned and grown personally and professionally through knowing Nathaniel."
Co-Founder, Art Cube
What we spend our time doing is what we truly honor as important.
Whatever it is that we prioritize to fill our time is something we want to do. Actions speak so much louder than words. Choosing to spend time, just 30 minutes or so, to better understand why this matters speaks volumes about the kind of family member, parent, friend, or teacher you are. There's no strings attached, just a half hour of some of the exercises I've developed in my time as a lecturer and thought leader on LGBTQ youth in the home and in the school system.
I hope you'll prove that this is very important to yourself and to others by choosing to spend some time on it today.
Thank you already for taking the time to even be here!